We were created in God’s likeness, and, since the fall, we sometimes act like petulant gods in our spheres of influence. In many instances we need to analyze who is really arbiter of our lives. A Christian is called to a life of learning (discipleship) to be progressively more Godly in a certain sense. This discipleship is transforming since it involves the Holy Spirit operating in our lives to display Godlikeness such as love, joy and peace. A necessity of the Spirit controlled life is putting the old self away, that is denying its operation whatever the circumstance. To say it another way: not allowing the fallen self to sit on the throne of governance in one’s life.
A listing of the fruits of the Spirit is found in Gal.5.22. The requirement for the Spirit’s functioning (v. 24) is death to self (the old corrupt person): those who belong to Christ have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires (NET). This call to discipleship was first articulated by Christ as recorded in the gospels: Then Jesus said to his disciples, “If anyone wants to become my follower, he must deny himself, take up his cross, and follow me. For whoever wants to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake will find it (Matt. 16.24-25 NET).